“Sorry, dudebros,” begins an article on Salon.com, “Sarah Silverman’s ‘sorry, it’s a boy’ Super Bowl ad isn’t sexist.”
Written by super-feminist Jenny Kutner, the article essentially argues that the right to be outraged is reserved for females only, because apparently, only females can experience real, everyday sexism.
The ad in question features both Sarah Silverman and fellow comedienne Chelsea Handler speaking to one another through T-Mobile’s Wi-Fi cell network as they make their way through the hidden catacombs of their “mansions.” The line in question happens as Silverman is present at a birth in her “underground delivery room.” As she hands the baby over to the mother, she says, “Sorry, it’s a boy.”
Kutner posted a few Twitter responses from males, whom she calls “dudebros,” who dared cry sexism. One asked to picture Howard Stern saying, “Sorry, it’s a girl,” while others leveled misandry accusations at T-Mobile.
But Kutner’s reaction to this outrage? She writes, “‘Males’ are more than happy to call misandry while totally overlooking what #EverydaySexism really looks like.” She goes a step further in stating that this misplaced outrage is a “pretty common misconception of how sexism tends to work.”
Real sexism, or “actual #EverydaySexism” in Kutner’s words, is aimed at women, not men. As examples of what this real sexism looks like, she lists several “proofs:” leaking, or threatening to release, photos of female celebrities, telling women to smile on the street, banning women’s bodies on social media, paying women less, or saying, “throw like a girl.”
Kutner made one small concession by stating that there is “a point to be made” to not make either gender the punchline of any joke, however she included a very large “but” and stated that this male-specific joke is infinitely more understandable in this misogynistic world. She ends with a defense of Silverman’s men-shaming joke:
[I]n a world where a tangential joke at the expense of men yields online outrage that overlooks the realities of systemic sexism, it’s pretty easy to see why Silverman would have seen a need to tell it.
Perhaps this is a moment for male customers of T-Mobile to contact them and say, “Sorry, I’m a boy, and I’m taking my business elsewhere.”